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Welcome to The Healing Heroes, the only podcast offering women juggling it all an instruction manual for how to feel happier and healthier using a range of unexpected approaches that help them reconnect with their true selves, build self-worth, and have fun in the process.

Host Chandler is a complex trauma survivor, who shares her twelve healers (now Heroes!) with the world in intimate conversations that familiarize listeners with their unique approaches to healing and help women realize they aren't alone in coping with anxiety, physical ailments, and a general sense of feeling as if they should be happier. Join us on the journey of a lifetime...

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The 3 Things Your Inner Child Needs and Why They Matter

August 20, 2025 • chandler stroud

Hero and Confidence Coach Cait DeMello joins Chandler to explore what she calls the “Hidden Three” unmet childhood needs: security, approval, and control.

These ever-present necessities drive so many of our choices in adulthood, and Cait explains how these core motivators shape our approach to our relationships, careers, and self-worth practices.

Whether you're a people-pleaser, overplanner, or a perfectionist, it's time to examine what you truly need and how you can begin meeting those needs from within.

What You Will Learn

[00:08:18] Why the need for security, approval, or control often originates in childhood
[00:09:19] How to spot when your actions are out of alignment with your truest self
[00:12:30] The ways people-pleasing and perfectionism relate to approval or control
[00:14:52] Why the control response often forms when we lacked approval or security
[00:19:30] How a dysregulated nervous system can block us from receiving helpful insight
[00:23:00] How small daily habits (like rushing through your morning) reveal dysregulation
[00:29:30] What each unmet need is really trying to get — and how to offer it to yourself
[00:42:30] A simple self-inquiry prompt to reveal which core motivator is running the show

Resources Mentioned

The Hidden 3 Workbook by Cait DeMello
- A Self-Discovery Workbook to Finally Understand Why You Feel Stuck and What To Do About IT

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