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The Healing Heroes: Holistic Wellness for Women

Welcome to The Healing Heroes: Holistic Wellness for Women where high-achieving women finally learn how to heal for real. Each week, host Chandler Stroud sits down with world-class healers—her very own “Heroes” who helped transform her life—to reveal the unexpected, science-backed, and soul-centered practices that calm anxiety, unwind stress, heal stored trauma in the body, and rebuild self-worth from the inside out.

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The 3 Things Your Inner Child Needs and Why They Matter

August 20, 2025 • chandler stroud

Hero and Confidence Coach Cait DeMello joins Chandler to explore what she calls the “Hidden Three” unmet childhood needs: security, approval, and control.

These ever-present necessities drive so many of our choices in adulthood, and Cait explains how these core motivators shape our approach to our relationships, careers, and self-worth practices.

Whether you're a people-pleaser, overplanner, or a perfectionist, it's time to examine what you truly need and how you can begin meeting those needs from within.

What You Will Learn

[00:08:18] Why the need for security, approval, or control often originates in childhood
[00:09:19] How to spot when your actions are out of alignment with your truest self
[00:12:30] The ways people-pleasing and perfectionism relate to approval or control
[00:14:52] Why the control response often forms when we lacked approval or security
[00:19:30] How a dysregulated nervous system can block us from receiving helpful insight
[00:23:00] How small daily habits (like rushing through your morning) reveal dysregulation
[00:29:30] What each unmet need is really trying to get — and how to offer it to yourself
[00:42:30] A simple self-inquiry prompt to reveal which core motivator is running the show

Resources Mentioned

The Hidden 3 Workbook by Cait DeMello
- A Self-Discovery Workbook to Finally Understand Why You Feel Stuck and What To Do About IT

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